If You Don’t Have Anything Nice To Say….

OK.  I admit.  I’ve been REALLY silent, and all-out-absent, on this blog for the past several weeks.

But I couldn’t write…  Because, as the title of this post intimates, “If you don’t have anything nice to say… don’t say anything at all.”

People close to us have been “in” on our complete situation.  And, I have not wanted to rant Online over things I cannot control.

However, I want to sincerely THANK all of my friends that I have seen in-person over the past several months, because they have graciously allowed me to vent to them.

We wrote back in the beginning of July last year about how “Plans Never Survive First Contact.”

It seems like I am telling that same story…. 8 months on.

We intended to sail to Cuba in December, and then off to the Bahamas.  We decided to sail through the Keys in order to give Dr. No a taste of the warm weather, and to show him the Florida Barrier Reef system before jumping off to Cuba.  We filed our USCG Form 3300 in November, so that we had it back in time to plan our Cuba trip in December.

However, in November, the Veteran’s Administration contacted me and said they needed to see me for some medical appointments related to my retirement compensation and pension.



[trying NOT to rant...]

So… I finally got my appointment on 13 February [did I mention that they said they wanted to see me in November?].  And… it was in Gainesville, Fl [did I mention that we were in Key West?]

Two-day car rental, one night in a hotel and over 16 hours in a car over the course of two days.  For a 45-minute appointment and some X-rays at the VA Hospital.


So…. [NO ranting...]  the VA has its information, and we are now free to continue on with our lives.

Miami Skyline at the Boat Show.

Miami Skyline at the Boat Show.

But now, we have other business to attend to in Annapolis.  So…. for all of our Annapolis friends, we can’t wait to see you!

I have totally admit… I was in such a funk  over the past few months over this thing.  I did write one blog post at New Year, venting a little.

However, after getting the VA medical appointments taken care of, we got underway from Boca Chica.  We had a great time at the Miami Boat Show with friends from Sail Away Catamarans.




Then we anchored in Ft. Lauderdale for a couple days to catch up with our great friends Phil and Kaye.  They dinghied to our boat for pizza night, then we tied up at their apartment complex dock to visit, pick up Dr. No from FLL [that story merits its own blog post], and have some great Chinese take-away.

Awesome Friends from www.UnderTheBoom.com, and terrific friends from Annapolis that have relocated to Ft. Lauderdale.

Awesome Friends friends from Annapolis and NH, that have relocated to Ft. Lauderdale.


With Dr. No safely returned, we motored to West Palm Beach, where we met other cruising friends who were waiting for a weather wind to cross to the Bahamas.  It was a great day with them; great dinner, great wine, and great conversation!

Our great friends on Chloe III, that we met in West Palm Beach.  We met up with them on our transit south in Beaufort, SC in November.  Great to catch up with them!

Our great friends on Chloe III, that we met in West Palm Beach. We met up with them on our transit south in Beaufort, SC in November. Great to catch up with them!


Awesome meet-up in St. Augustine with our great Annapolis and Navy friend, Joe. Hadn’t seen him in almost 5 years. It was great to catch up!










Then we saw James’ dad in Daytona for a couple of days, and then continued on to St. Augustine to see a great Navy, Annapolis, and, sailing friend, who we hadn’t seen in almost 5 years!

It’s been great to catch up with so many great cruising friends as we travel, and happy to be catching up with family.  Honestly, I needed it!  This travel up the Florida coast has been absolutely therapeutic, and reminds me of WHY we went sailing:  to make friends, to spend quality time with friends, and to make time out of our days to see our friends.  Life is too short; I value these times and relationships we’ve made.  

And now that I am out of my “VA-Funk,” I will get back to posting about life, liberty, and the pursuit of a good rum punch!







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6 Responses to If You Don’t Have Anything Nice To Say….

  1. Gabe & Joan says:

    Looking forward to seeing you again. A very wise lady said that we spend the majority of our lives always waiting for something. If you think about it, there’s always something. Right? I spent too many days in my younger years worrying about things beyond my control. It’s a waste of time. Although I am not a religious person, I am spiritual. So I learned to find peace in enjoying and being thankful for the simple things in everyday life and let God worry about squeezing that round peg into the square hole. I wish I figured this out years ago. Maybe there’s something to that adage “wisdom comes with age”. Glad you are posting again and you are not rotting away in some Cuban jail. :)

    • Octopussy says:

      You know me too well… a Cuban jail is about where I belong!

      Thanks for the inspirational words, you are so right. That’s why I’ve been so blessed to have such great friends to remind me that seeing friends, and spending quality time with them, is what life is all about. Those are important things. The VA is just a frustrating bump in the road.

      Can’t wait to see you both! Again… great friends make all the difference!


  2. Sorry to hear about the troubles with the VA. I remember what a nightmare it was dealing with them when my father-in-law was ill. Glad you’ve had the comfort of connecting with old and new friends during it all.

    • Octopussy says:

      Thanks Ellen. It was a really trying winter. I was SO frustrated. AND, I was told that BECAUSE I had called and filed Online requests for someone to call me to discuss it…. They SAT on my claim for complaining!!!!! Can’t make this stuff up. Those are the words from people AT THE VA!!!

      Anyway, [trying not to rant....] We’re happy that it’s not weighing on us any more.

      However, now we’re traveling north. It’s COLD!!!! We had toques and shoes on today (in addition to sweatshirts, jackets, and pants). I haven’t worn close-toed shoes in MONTHS!

      But we’re on to bigger and better things… just have to take care of some business first.

      Stay in touch, and let us know if you need a sounding board for your solar power issues!!!


  3. Nina says:

    Wow to admit sitting on the claim as punishment is just ballsy! Waiting here at the dock for you with rum in hand!

    • Octopussy says:

      I know! I couldn’t believe it. Even my VFW representative (the helped me file all of my original paperwork last year) told me the same thing.


      Anyway… can’t wait to have a rum and catch up with you!